I found an interesting article today about being a man. You can read it, too.
http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2008/05/how-to-be-a-man/
I’m not sure I agree with the second point (Put your relationships second). Point number 9 tends to say more about relationships that I agree with.
The question that the second point raises is: Am I using my relationship with my spouse/family to hold myself back from being the best I can be?
Another way to look at this question is similar to a question I would ask myself about whether or not I am behaving in an “addicitive” way. One of the questions that I would ask myself when I suspect I am being compulsive and obsessive is: Does this relationship interfere with my job?
When I make a comittment to go from A to B, what life events am I allowing to get in the way of that? Can I get my life together, find enough support, enroll my family members, my boss, my men’s team to support me in this effort?
When I hear a man say “My family comes first” it sounds noble and committed at first, but I get a niggly question in the back of my mind that asks: What is it about this man that he allows his family to suck the life out of him?
